I’ve got a stalker. I’m 34 (yes, I am! for another month), married and not nearly as attractive as I was years ago, yet now I’ve got a stalker. He found me somehow, and has been instant messaging me and has now found my MySpace account (yes, I have a myspace and yes, I’m 34!) and has begun to send me messages there. I am very particular about who I will ‘friend’ in myspace. I will not ‘friend’ people I don’t know, and mostly my ‘friends’ are my first cousins and my brothers. It’s not a very exciting MySpace but, it turns out that MySpace is really everyone’s space and that the internet is really quite a scary place.

So this guy is a Pashtoon, which I guess to him it means that he and I are the same person, we share the same background and are living the same lives. I am pretty sure he is a fundamentalist. His main interest is whether I’m married to a white guy, an American, a kafir, and his im’s and messages on myspace run along those same lines. I’ve told him in a variety of ways that I’m not interested in communicating with him, and actually blocked him from instant messaging me. Yet, he found me on MySpace, he knows my name and where I live and what I do.

I have to admit to being afraid. When I told him to stop messaging me or contacting me in any manner, he sent me another message, this one quite disturbing. I am actually contemplating going to the authorities, since I don’t know what a person like this might do. He is clearly a religious zealot, and I’m pretty sure that my lifestyle has caused him a great deal of angst. I guess I’m looking to my friends in cyberspace to get some suggestions on what to do. I know who this person is, I know where they live, but now I just need to know if I should let it go or if I should be proactive. My gut is telling me to report it to someone, because when I blocked him on the im, he found me anyway! This tells me this guy has a problem, and probably won’t stop on his own.

Any thoughts would be appreciated.

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