At Crime & Federalism, Mike Cernovich doesn’t write too much about crime or about federalism.  These days its about women blaming men for bad stuff that happens, recipes to develop more manliness, and alpha males man-handling their women and killing their own food.  Okay, not really, but that’s my take-away.  Maybe I read between the lines, maybe it’s because I don’t see myself in the posts he writes, but I am not ever (hardly) offended, and frequently, like today, I’m amused.  Yes, C&F; makes me lol and while I think occasionally his logic is loose, I don’t disagree with lot of what he says about religion, about women, and about American society in general.

Yesterday, Mike wrote about women not writing entries for Wikipedia.  Now, the basic premise of that post was that women read People magazine and care more about celebrity gossip than facts and information and that is why we don’t write for Wikipedia.  (I say I don’t write for Wikipedia because it’s stupid, but that’s a different post)  He says that women don’t blog because we are busy blaming men for things like our inability to blog.  Here is a post where I am amused, I don’t terribly disagree, but it’s not the tightest argument ever.  It’s ok, I still liked the post and at the end of the day, for me, that’s how I decide what to read.

OK, so then Carolyn Elefant wrote a response to this post wherein she says she reads Oprah when she’s done with her day because it is an escape (and then she says it’s good, but I don’t believe that).  She also said Mike is sexist.  Carolyn writes that the reason why there aren’t more women bloggers is because women bear the brunt of housework and child rearing so when deciding what to do and when, blogging takes a backseat (I’m not even going to touch the Wikipedia angle because, like I said, Wikipedia is stupid).  I think Carolyn makes a good point as well.  It’s not the life I live since my husband is a true partner in every aspect.  He knows I’m growing a business and that takes time and effort so he picks up a lot of the slack.  However, he works ridiculous hours and I’m beholden to his schedule.  I’ve had to cancel late evening or early morning appointments because he hasn’t been able to get the kids, but hey, it’s life and we manage to make it work.

Look, I’m not going to lie, this having kids and being a full time solo practice go-to-court and represent clients lawyer thing is hard.  It takes a lot out of all parties involved and it’s a lot of ducking and weaving and bobbing sometimes to get through the day.  I meet clients after the kids go to bed. I work on Sundays.  I make most meals (because I am a much better cook) but I don’t do laundry (I take mine to the fluff and fold, it’s my one indulgence).  I choose to blog with a little less frequency since I’ve had to make choices on how I spend the little time I’ve got left in a day.

I have a friend, she works at a pretty high profile software company.  Her son is the same age as mine.  She is a single mom.  When I talk to her I try not to complain.  She does ALL OF IT by herself every single day. And she has since her son was born.  And she thrives and is promoted and does what she needs to do to make sure she gets it done and thrives and is promoted.  When school is closed and she has to present at the company international sales meeting she figures this shit out and gets her son where he needs to be and then presents at the sales meeting without a hair out of place.  I’m not sure she thinks “gee, this isn’t fair” I’m not sure she thinks anything other than “I love my job, I love my son, I’m going to make this work.”

I don’t think Mike is sexist.  I don’t think Carolyn is an idiot for reading Oprah (I mean, Oprah though, really?) But then again, the new feminist agenda is not something I’ve spent a lot of time thinking about in the recent years because I’ve been trying to run a law firm, have kids, raise kids, then run a law firm.  Which, I thought, is what our feminist forerunners were trying to make sure we would get to do.

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